Seen as it is Mother’s Day today here in the UK, I thought I’d dedicate a post to my biggest role model…my mum. If I can be even half the women my mother is, I’ll consider myself content and successful. I’m always in awe of how truly beautiful my mum is, inside and out. Here’s a few of the main reasons my mum is my biggest role model…if I listed them all I think we’d be here until 2030! (Oh, by the way she’s going to absolutely kill me for writing this and publishing her photo on the internet!)
Firstly, my mum is insistent on staying single…she doesn’t need no man (mainly because men are pains in the bum, as you all well know!). You may or may not know that my parents divorced when I was around 6. Despite being divorced they’ve stayed good friends, mainly for me I think. Mum has brought me up on her own, and she’s happy on her own. I never really thought much of this until I got into a serious relationship myself and realised it takes a lot to be settled and happy with yourself. You can be content on your own, and this level of independance something I really look up to. Mum isn’t reliant on anyone else, she does everything off her own back. She enjoys her own company, which over the past year I’ve learned to too. She has her girl friends and me of course (!), and that’s all she wants and needs (#GIRLPOWER).
Understanding and Empathetic
Mum is a very forgiving person, and never wants to hold a grudge over minor problems. She is amazing at supporting and understanding others, and puts her heart and soul into making others feel better and happier. Mum isn’t really an openly emotional person about her own feelings and opinions, but will always be there if someone needs a shoulder to cry on. She’s a great friend and even greater mother.
My mum supports me with everything I do, in every aspect of life. Academically, she strives for me to work hard, but doesn’t put pressure on me. She’s always repeating to me that, “I’ve tried my hardest and that’s all that matters”. Also, she was so supportive with every extra-curricular activity I was involved in when I was younger, and now. Taking me to swimming lessons, (now I’m such a water-baby), watching me parade through town with the Brownies and Guide units, cheering me on at dance competitions and even when dark nights loomed and she couldn’t take me to the clubs I was part of, she’d always find a way to ensure I’d make it.
I’m very unlike mum when it comes to patience. She can tolerate problems and irritating aspects of life without becoming annoyed or stressed out by them. This is how I will be…eventually! I’m very much like my dad; a little snappy and little things really stress me out. Mum just lets things go straight over her head, and doesn’t let them overly bother her. I believe it’s a very important skill in life.
Strong and Determined
Mum has this innate ability to overcome obstacles so effectively. Mum has had to overcome a fair few obstacles in life, details of which I’m obviously not going to go into. But, every single time she doesn’t let it phase her and comes out the other end even stronger. Once mum has set her mind on something, nothing will stop her.
Memory Maker and Life-Liver (Oh, and Youthful!)
As preciously mentioned mum didn’t have me until later on in life. But, she lived her life before committing herself to me. I love hearing her stories from her younger days; boozy holidays, day-trips and so many memories to share. I also think this is why she looks SO amazing for her age…I aren’t going to share it but if you’re any good at maths you’ll be able to work it out for yourself!
Mum won’t realise, but these stories have had a huge impact on me. I jump at any opportunity I can, and with that I love making as many memories as possible. As well as this, taking photos so those moments can be looked back on. Mum has cases of photos from her younger years, and there’s nothing I love more than looking through them all, and hearing what story comes with them.
Last but definitely no means least, my mum has a level of courage I will never have. One thing I specifically can’t get over is the numerous operations she has had, and they never seem to phase her…well at least she doesn’t show it. I’m the one who’s a blubbering nervous wreck, whilst she walks into that hospital like she’s off to do a bit of shopping.
My mum didn’t have me until she was 40, which at the time was quite ‘old’ to be a new mum, and all my friends mum’s were 10-15 years younger than mine. Despite wanting to have a child younger, I totally respect mum having me at an older age. This in itself shows courage to me, especially after being told she would never have children. As well as this there is the courage my mum and dad both showed when I was born, remaining strong despite complications and me being in SCBU. I have so much love for the pair of them.
“I would say that my mother is the single biggest role model in my life, but that term doesn’t seem to encompass enough when I use it about her. She was the love of my life.” – Mindy Kaling
Happy Mother’s Day mum.
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